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diff --git a/content/posts/feynman-technique/index.mdx b/content/posts/feynman-technique/index.mdx
@@ -80,4 +80,4 @@ Now when you are learning and are up to step 4. You are forced to come up with a
 
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diff --git a/content/posts/meeting-people/index.mdx b/content/posts/meeting-people/index.mdx
@@ -69,4 +69,4 @@ You also have to be sure to grow and maintain these relationships. You're not go
 
 ## Acknowledgements:
 
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diff --git a/content/posts/no-distraction/index.mdx b/content/posts/no-distraction/index.mdx
@@ -41,4 +41,4 @@ tags:
 
 ## Acknowledgements:
 
-I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know his/her name). So, I thank him/her for giving this valuable material.
+I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
diff --git a/content/posts/procrastination/index.mdx b/content/posts/procrastination/index.mdx
@@ -272,4 +272,4 @@ In contrast with cycles of procrastination, when it can feel impossible to start
 
 ## Acknowledgements:
 
-I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for giving this valuable material.
+I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
diff --git a/content/posts/self-help-cheatsheet/index.mdx b/content/posts/self-help-cheatsheet/index.mdx
@@ -206,4 +206,4 @@ banner: ./defence-against-the-dark-arts.jpg
 
 ## Acknowledgements:
 
-I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know his/her name). So, I thank him/her for giving this valuable material.
+I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
diff --git a/content/posts/small-talk-cheatsheet/index.mdx b/content/posts/small-talk-cheatsheet/index.mdx
@@ -8,30 +8,30 @@ tags:
   - Social Skills
 ---
 
-## **Basic Principles**
+### **Basic Principles**
 
 - Social skills and small talk are a skill you become better at by practice
 - Small talk is a technique to get to know each other and get on the same level
 - If you get on the same page, you can open up and connect more to create a relation
 - Don’t engage people for approval, validation or acceptance - but for a social experience
 - A big part of communication is nonverbal - voice, posture, expressions
 
-## **Qualities**
+### **Qualities**
 
 - Be honest to yourself and others
 - Be an energetic, optimistic, enthusiastic you
 - Be curious and show empathy
 - Don’t take it all too serious
 
-## **Right mindsets**
+### **Right mindsets**
 
 - I can develop in a better me by taking action
 - I’m the actor not the victim in my life
 - I’m truly interested in other people
 - Everybody likes me until proven otherwise
 - I am a likable and interesting person
 
-## **How to approach people**
+### **How to approach people**
 
 - Look if people are open to conversation
   - Open body language
@@ -41,7 +41,7 @@ tags:
 - Approach and just simply open with:
   `"Hi, how are you?"`
 
-## **How to start a conversation**
+### **How to start a conversation**
 
 - Comment on the context (Situations, news, setting, people)
   `“This coffee place has a nice nostalgic interior, don’t you agree?”`
@@ -64,7 +64,7 @@ tags:
 - Mention common interests
   `“Are you going to watch the game tonight?”`
 
-## **How to keep a conversation going**
+### **How to keep a conversation going**
 
 - Balance talking and listening to 2:3 ratio
 - Show **_genuine_** interest,
@@ -95,7 +95,7 @@ tags:
 - Use “what-if” scenarios to get people thinking and talking
   - `“What if mobile phones were forbidden”`
 
-## **What to talk about**
+### **What to talk about**
 
 - Be prepared
   - Be informed, what is on people’s mind now? Latest meme, hype, news?
@@ -114,14 +114,14 @@ tags:
   - Dreams (aspirations)
 - Don’t just talk about yourself
 
-## **How to talk and use your voice and body**
+### **How to talk and use your voice and body**
 
 - Look people in the eyes
 - Stand up straight and relaxed
 - Open body language, hands by your side
 - Articulate clearly and speak loud enough
 
-## **How to actively listen**
+### **How to actively listen**
 
 - Listen with intent and true interest
 - Use verbal acknowledgment that you listen
@@ -138,15 +138,15 @@ tags:
 - Ask about what has been told, go with the flow
 - Paraphrase what people said to show you listened
 
-## **When and how to end a conversation**
+### **When and how to end a conversation**
 
 - If conversations seem to be going nowhere
 - Or if there seems to be no real interest feel free to leave
   - `“(Excuse me) I have to go …”`
   - `“It was nice talking to you, but I have to …”`
   - `“Alright, see you around”`
 
-## **How to overcome anxiety barrier**
+### **How to overcome anxiety barrier**
 
 - 3 second rule - approach before you can think
 - Take deep calming breaths to calm down and approach
@@ -157,13 +157,13 @@ tags:
   - `“I usually don’t step up to people, but you looked pretty interesting”`
 - Practice, practice, practice
 
-## **Stop!:**
+### **Stop!:**
 
 - Overanalyzing yourself and the situation
 - Filtering your responses, say what you think/feel
 - Focusing on yourself - instead focus (on the comfort of) the other
 
-## **How to make others and yourself comfortable**
+### **How to make others and yourself comfortable**
 
 - Become comfortable by making others comfortable
 - Ask how people are doing
@@ -178,7 +178,7 @@ tags:
   - Say what you think and feel
 - Don’t take it all too seriously
 
-## **Connecting to people**
+### **Connecting to people**
 
 - Open up yourself, step by step share about you(r life)
   - Share information you’d ask of others as well
@@ -187,6 +187,23 @@ tags:
 
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+## Takeaways from the book *How to Win Friends & Influence People*
+
+1. Don't criticise, condemn or complain. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
+2. It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is among such individuals that all human failures spring.
+3. Become genuinely interested in other people. Smile. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. 
+4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Talk in terms of the other person's interests. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely. 
+5. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong". If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. 
+7. Begin in a friendly way, using praise and honest appreciation. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately in a conversation. 
+8. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. Let them feel that the idea is theirs. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. 
+9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires. Appeal to the nobler motives. 
+10. Dramatize your ideas. Throw down a challenge. Let the other person save face. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. 
+11. An effective way to correct others' mistakes is to call attention to people's mistakes indirectly. 
+12. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. 
+13. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. 
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 ## Acknowledgements:
 
-I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know his/her name). So, I thank him/her for giving this valuable material.
+I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
diff --git a/content/posts/things-to-keep-in-mind/index.mdx b/content/posts/things-to-keep-in-mind/index.mdx
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 ## Acknowledgements:
 
-I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for giving this valuable material.
+I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
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		## Acknowledgements:

		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know his/her name). So, I thank him/her for giving this valuable guidance.
		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
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		## Acknowledgements:

		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know his/her name). So, I thank him/her for giving this valuable material.
		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
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		## Acknowledgements:

		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know his/her name). So, I thank him/her for giving this valuable material.
		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
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		## Acknowledgements:

		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for giving this valuable material.
		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
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		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know his/her name). So, I thank him/her for giving this valuable material.
		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good, and put up here with some modifications of my own. The original work and credit all go to whoever posted this up on Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for sharing this valuable material.
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		## Acknowledgements:

		I [(@vijethph)](https://github.com/vijethph) just found this while browsing Reddit, thought it was good and put up here, with some modifications of my own. The original work, and credit all goes to whoever put this up in Reddit (I don't know their name). So, I thank them for giving this valuable material.
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